I noticed that my feed was a lot of the same over stimulating content about relationships and even some not so favorable political jargon.
Sprinkle in some sewing stuff and one or two motivational channels and that about summed up what I’ve been consuming on a regular basis, lately.
I’d been naturally, progressively changing over the course of this year and it was time to address the timeline.
I’m not on any social media platforms at the moment. It’s been two years and counting since logging off of TikTok and I’d completely given up on instagram the year before that. So I thought those changes were good. My opinions were not changing too much though. I had to purge again.
I have taken to listening to different things on YouTube. Hair content, it’s silk press season and split ends has your girl in a choke hold. Informal interviews on podcasts from some of my favorite artists and people I didn’t know about, sends warm and fuzzies through my mind.
I even explored gritty life stuff. Ladies of the Night and addicts. I’m not opposed to learning from others in any form. Life is something else and people end up living it so many different ways. It’s inspiring to me how so many different folks find courage to share their experiences with strangers on the internet. So I don’t know how I ended up on toxic row.
Somewhere on my exploration I started consuming the relationship bait. Everything was about how terrible men are and how terrible women are. Wife’s hating their lives. Husband doing their wife’s wrong. Mother’s regretting their children. It was a lot. It was sad. And the worst part is that it was filled with folks projecting themselves onto every situation.
If I’ve learned anything in my forty years it’s that you have no idea what you will or will not do or except or be, until you are right there in it. You can create scenario after scenario but until you are faced with the difficult reality you don’t know what you are capable of handling. If you would stick to the boundaries you created. If you are jumping the gun on a situation. You don’t know until it’s happening.
I’m not saying that you can’t learn from others mistakes or take advice from people. But so much of what’s out there in this Information Age is just an abundance of opinions of what people think they would do. We are all different. Every situation is uniquely its own. Just because you are going through something very similar to someone else doesn’t mean you’ll get the results they did.
We each have to make our own choices based on the circumstances of our own situation and hope for the best. Just because someone or something didn’t work out for someone else, doesn’t mean it won’t be the best outcome for you and just because something does go well, great even, for someone else doesn’t mean it’ll work out for you either.
I’m saying all that to say, I changed my algorithm. No more relationship stuff. Or crazy political takes. I’ve burnt myself out with the constant stream of delusion. In real life, people are just people living their lives the best they can. “Get off the internet” is one of the best phrases for 2026! lol still read my blog though!
Until next time take care of yourself
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